To discover love we must understand the limitations of thought. It is not to eliminate or disregard thinking. Thought is inevitable and is useful in ways but it is essential to understand what it is capable and what it is not. That involves contemplation and through that an awareness of the distinction of what can be known and what can not be. There is something of a more direct experience that has been undervalued in our coming to a conventional reliance on ways of thinking. The significance of that aspect of direct experience is enormous. Some would say that intuition is a part of it. It has served as a fundamental aspect of the unfolding of the human species and for that matter all life on this planet.
THOUGHT DOES NOT LEAD TO LOVE
The process of thought ever denies love. It is thought that has emotional complications, not love. Thought is the greatest hindrance to love. Thought creates a division between what is and ‘what should be’, and on this division morality is based; but neither the moral nor the immoral know love. This moral structure, created by the mind to hold social relationships together, is not love, but a hardening process like that of cement. Thought does not lead to love, thought does not cultivate love, for love cannot be cultivated as a plant in the garden. The very desire to cultivate love is the action of thought. If you are at all aware, you will see what an important part thought plays in your life. Thought obviously has its place, but it is in no way related to love. What is related to thought can be understood by thought, but that which is not related to thought cannot be caught by the mind. You will ask, then what is love? Love is a state of being in which thought is not; but the very definition of love is a process of thought, and so it is not love. We have to understand thought itself, and not try to capture love by thought. The denial of thought does not bring about love. There is freedom from thought only when its deep significance is fully understood; and, for this, profound self-knowledge is essential, not vain and superficial assertions. Meditation and not repetition, awareness and not definition, reveal the ways of thought. Without being aware and experiencing the ways of thought, love cannot be.
– Krishnamurti , Commentaries on Living, Series 1,16,Choiceless Awareness